self-love | Down-n-Dirty Blog on Relationships

Published by admin on July 30, 2018

Explorations of Pain

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Published by admin on January 10, 2017

Total click-bait, I know. Sneaky, I’m not. But, shit–it’s the internet age. You have to practically slam people into oncoming traffic to get them to pay attention. Even to themselves. Especially to themselves. I won’t disguise this one in metaphor. The worst thing you can possibly do–and that which you do incessantly–is to poop all…

Published by admin on December 31, 2016

The New Sexy: Upgraded (2017)

Here’s The New Sexy: Upgraded. (If you’re coming from my old site please scroll down to where it says, new.) Until recently, when a woman over 40 checked out my dating profile, the first thought that automatically popped up in my head was too old–and then I quickly moved on to the next profile. I would literally think, Why is she…

Published by admin on November 29, 2016

My Next “Relationship”

Someone recently asked me, “Alex, you just got OUT of a relationship–why are you already thinking about your next one?” Because at THIS moment, I am VERY CLEAR on what I DO NOT WANT in a relationship. When we leave a relationship, there are things that weren’t working–obviously. Emotionally and time-wise, we are closest to that “knowing”…

Published by admin on March 16, 2016

Why We See Women as Weak

My epiphany struck in Publix. I was shopping with a friend and just slightly ahead of him. I found myself keeping tabs on whether he was coming with me or not. I started to feel a tinge of insecurity. Was I going to assert my independence, or was I going to have to follow…

Published by admin on March 5, 2016

My Most Courageous Act

The most courageous thing I’ve ever done wasn’t kayaking The Narrows in Zion National Park. It wasn’t living in Israel during the second antifada. It wasn’t even doing naked stand-up in front of a hundred strangers at Burning Man (even though I had forgotten to manscape). No. The most courageous thing I’ve ever done was to leave the…

Published by admin on February 17, 2016

My Way Out

Yesterday, I’m lying in bed. Thinking. My life has been messy lately, starting with my inability to sleep with any semblance of normality. Couple that with not having enough money, needing it, not being able to find a job… and it led me to a thought: Wow. It sure would be nice to go crazy. …

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