Down-n-Dirty Blog on Relationships

Published by admin on April 2, 2019

LOVE: WANTED DEAD OR ALIVE

  I know you want commitment. You want to know that if you open yourself up to me, fully, that I will give all of me to you. A fair proposition. And pre-supposition—for your love. And I understand your sentiment. But what if I told you that the I that I am—the I that you claim…

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Published by admin on March 11, 2018

When Your Fate Hangs in the Balance

  I’m talking about the decision to get married. I would venture to say that it’s the most important decision of our lives. And though we might say it’s reversible, its consequences may not be.   Maybe I’m being dramatic. Or am I?   Marriage is the default position of our culture. It’s what little girls are…

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Published by admin on November 29, 2016

My Next “Relationship”

  Someone recently asked me, “Alex, you just got OUT of a relationship–why are you already thinking about your next one?” Because at THIS moment, I am VERY CLEAR on what I DO NOT WANT in a relationship. When we leave a relationship, there are things that weren’t working–obviously. Emotionally and time-wise, we are closest to that “knowing”…

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Published by admin on September 30, 2015

Wizards Live Life Backwards

A few years ago, I read a book that rocked my world: The Way of the Wizard, by Deepak Chopra. It’s a small book with a powerful message: you gotta BELIEVE it before you can SEE it. It’s totally the reverse of how we normally view life (and counter-intuitive). Of course, he’s not the first to write…

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Published by admin on July 13, 2015

Monogamissing Out

Hopefully, this title made you smile. I’m just being funny. Mostly. Let me just say this at the onset: I’m mostly talking to single people here. I am not talking to those of you reading this who are already married or in long-term committed relationships. There’s no hope for you. I’m talking to those of you…

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