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Published by admin on March 11, 2018

When Your Fate Hangs in the Balance

I’m talking about the decision to get married. I would venture to say that it’s the most important decision of our lives. And though we might say it’s reversible, its consequences may not be. Maybe I’m being dramatic. Or am I? Marriage is the default position of our culture. It’s what little girls are…

Published by admin on February 24, 2018

BAD FAITH

A la one of my favorite Frenchmen (viva la France!) after Camus, that is– Sartre discussed the notion of “bad faith.” What is bad faith? We were born into a world that already had a bunch of givens: how to behave how to live (though, ironically… not much of a manual for how…

Published by admin on January 29, 2018

When Paradise is Unsettling: My Love Burn Experience

I had the good fortune to spend this past weekend at a regional burn (think Burning Man, but way smaller) in south Florida on Key Biscayne Island. Myself and 2,000 soon-to-be good friends, camping, drinking, dancing and fucking. Well… 3 out of 4 ain’t bad. There’s a lot of truth in the unspoken. As I learned in my…

Published by admin on January 8, 2018

Who Would I Be?

Who would I be if my whole being didn’t depend on the answer? Who would I be if there were no expectations, only desires? Who would I be if I didn’t have this extra weight making gravity even heavier? www.alexobed.com

Published by admin on October 23, 2017

How I Became an Emotionally Closed-Off Man

I forgot that I had my own “me, too” story. And that’s quite telling. I was in junior high school. I was young for my age, and short and scrawny. Not an auspicious beginning to an otherwise already difficult period for most young people. I was in “P.E.” class–which was coed. We were all in…

Published by admin on September 28, 2017

Making Magic at the Bank (of course this story involves a woman)

Don’t worry… I didn’t rob it. But I did break an old pattern today. Usually, when I cross paths with a beautiful woman, who happens to be a complete stranger, I don’t know what to say. On a good day, I’ll smile and say, “hey,” and then quickly go back to staring at my…

Published by admin on August 15, 2017

A Stinky Analogy on Male Privilege

I live in a community of men and women. Twelve of us share three bathrooms and one shower. One of these bathrooms has both a urinal and a toilet. I’m a man. As a man, I really prefer taking a wiz in a urinal, rather than in a toilet. I don’t have to touch anything…

When Your Fate Hangs in the Balance

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