Down-n-Dirty Blog on Relationships

Published by admin on June 9, 2017

I don’t want to be a hamster

  I was just outside, having a smoke, thinking.   I was listening to the sounds– passing cars, birds chirping, a washing machine washing.   But I couldn’t separate the sounds from my “knowledge” of those sounds. I couldn’t experience those sounds as merely sounds; they are always sounds that mean something.   The whooshing…

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Published by admin on June 3, 2017

The boy who was afraid to use emojis

There were emojis before there were emojis. We just did them, you know, without having to have a fancy millennial word attached.   Take the smiley face, for example. Just a simple round line and two dots.   When I was in middle school, I would watch girls write notes to each other; almost inevitably,…

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Published by admin on June 2, 2017

Maybe

  I told you it was about freedom, but that’s only half the story.   Maybe it’s not that you’ll smother me or take my freedom; but that in submitting to your love,  I’ll be annihilated.   Maybe the me you’ll slay isn’t the real me,  but the imposter posing as me. Maybe.   www.alexobed.com…

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Published by admin on May 29, 2017

Real Talk 4 Men Dating Women

  You’re dating someone you like. You can tell she’s into you. You’re into her, too. But you still have a few women that you’ve been working on the side. To be fair: you knew these women before you met her. So… you’re not really doing anything wrong by talking to them now. And it’s just…

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Published by admin on May 11, 2017

Schloppity Schlopp

  I’m outside on the couch. Another glorious afternoon in LA. And I’m thinking… about thinking. About ten years ago, I did my first of two week-long, silent meditation retreats at a Jewish Center called, Elat Chayyim. I’m far from an expert in meditation, but I did have a giant epiphany during that week of…

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Published by admin on May 10, 2017

What if…

  That which you’re seeking, is seeking you.   But because you’re always seeking it, you’re never “home,” and it can’t find you.       www.alexobed.com

Published by admin on May 6, 2017

A Metaphor about Privilege

As a child, I would hold an apple seed in the palm of my hand and contemplate, really contemplate, how that tiny little seed could become the monstrosity of a fully-grown tree. How could something so large be contained in something so tiny? As an adult, I know that the tree is not actually contained in the seed. Well,…

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