Down-n-Dirty Blog on Relationships

Published by admin on March 31, 2018

Be Out of Control

  I had an epiphany today about these words. You are out of control.   In the common meaning: you are acting in a way that is not ok; i.e., too aggressive, too wild, too selfish, etc.   But a deeper cut is that you’re not in my control– and I don’t like it.   To be out…

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Published by admin on March 11, 2018

When Your Fate Hangs in the Balance

  I’m talking about the decision to get married. I would venture to say that it’s the most important decision of our lives. And though we might say it’s reversible, its consequences may not be.   Maybe I’m being dramatic. Or am I?   Marriage is the default position of our culture. It’s what little girls are…

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Published by admin on February 24, 2018

BAD FAITH

  A la one of my favorite Frenchmen (viva la France!) after Camus, that is– Sartre discussed the notion of “bad faith.”   What is bad faith? We were born into a world that already had a bunch of givens: how to behave how to live (though, ironically… not much of a manual for how…

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Published by admin on February 10, 2018

Running to Stand Still

  Those of you from the 80’s or earlier might know this song by U2. I relate– big time.   My life can be characterized by never-ending movement. Florida. Ohio. Michigan. Georgia. Israel. New York. Connecticut. Georgia (again). Florida (again). California. And, now, Florida… again!   I was studying Torah in yeshiva in Israel. I…

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Published by admin on September 28, 2017

Making Magic at the Bank (of course this story involves a woman)

  Don’t worry… I didn’t rob it. But I did break an old pattern today. Usually, when I cross paths with a beautiful woman, who happens to be a complete stranger, I don’t know what to say. On a good day, I’ll smile and say, “hey,” and then quickly go back to staring at my…

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Published by admin on June 2, 2017

Maybe

  I told you it was about freedom, but that’s only half the story.   Maybe it’s not that you’ll smother me or take my freedom; but that in submitting to your love,  I’ll be annihilated.   Maybe the me you’ll slay isn’t the real me,  but the imposter posing as me. Maybe.   www.alexobed.com…

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Published by admin on November 29, 2016

My Next “Relationship”

  Someone recently asked me, “Alex, you just got OUT of a relationship–why are you already thinking about your next one?” Because at THIS moment, I am VERY CLEAR on what I DO NOT WANT in a relationship. When we leave a relationship, there are things that weren’t working–obviously. Emotionally and time-wise, we are closest to that “knowing”…

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