Down-n-Dirty Blog on Relationships

Published by admin on July 2, 2019

REGRETS

    RIP Jane www.alexobed.com  

Published by admin on April 2, 2019

LOVE: WANTED DEAD OR ALIVE

  I know you want commitment. You want to know that if you open yourself up to me, fully, that I will give all of me to you. A fair proposition. And pre-supposition—for your love. And I understand your sentiment. But what if I told you that the I that I am—the I that you claim…

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Published by admin on October 27, 2018

Infidelity & The Call of our Soul

  I’m reading The Unbearable Lightness of Being, a remarkable novel by a literary genius, Milan Kundera. In one of the scenes, Tereza, the wife of the protagonist (who himself is a total philanderer), has sex with a stranger from a bar to see what it’s like to have sex without love. As she walked to…

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Published by admin on March 11, 2018

When Your Fate Hangs in the Balance

  I’m talking about the decision to get married. I would venture to say that it’s the most important decision of our lives. And though we might say it’s reversible, its consequences may not be.   Maybe I’m being dramatic. Or am I?   Marriage is the default position of our culture. It’s what little girls are…

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Published by admin on February 24, 2018

BAD FAITH

  A la one of my favorite Frenchmen (viva la France!) after Camus, that is– Sartre discussed the notion of “bad faith.”   What is bad faith? We were born into a world that already had a bunch of givens: how to behave how to live (though, ironically… not much of a manual for how…

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Published by admin on September 28, 2017

Making Magic at the Bank (of course this story involves a woman)

  Don’t worry… I didn’t rob it. But I did break an old pattern today. Usually, when I cross paths with a beautiful woman, who happens to be a complete stranger, I don’t know what to say. On a good day, I’ll smile and say, “hey,” and then quickly go back to staring at my…

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Published by admin on September 4, 2016

You Can’t NOT Find True Love

  It’s a bold claim, I know. But I believe it, whole-heart-ed-ly. It comes with a catch, though. (Luckily, not a catch-22.) You have to really live your life. In other words, you have to be an individual. Single. Separate. Discrete. Independent. You’ve got to go on a journey that is yours and yours alone….

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