Published by admin on March 11, 2018

When Your Fate Hangs in the Balance

  I’m talking about the decision to get married. I would venture to say that it’s the most important decision of our lives. And though we might say it’s reversible, its consequences may not be.   Maybe I’m being dramatic. Or am I?   Marriage is the default position of our culture. It’s what little girls are…

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Published by admin on February 24, 2018

BAD FAITH

  A la one of my favorite Frenchmen (viva la France!) after Camus, that is– Sartre discussed the notion of “bad faith.”   What is bad faith? We were born into a world that already had a bunch of givens: how to behave how to live (though, ironically… not much of a manual for how…

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Published by admin on September 28, 2017

Making Magic at the Bank (of course this story involves a woman)

  Don’t worry… I didn’t rob it. But I did break an old pattern today. Usually, when I cross paths with a beautiful woman, who happens to be a complete stranger, I don’t know what to say. On a good day, I’ll smile and say, “hey,” and then quickly go back to staring at my…

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Published by admin on September 4, 2016

You Can’t NOT Find True Love

  It’s a bold claim, I know. But I believe it, whole-heart-ed-ly. It comes with a catch, though. (Luckily, not a catch-22.) You have to really live your life. In other words, you have to be an individual. Single. Separate. Discrete. Independent. You’ve got to go on a journey that is yours and yours alone….

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Published by admin on May 17, 2016

Why Women Lie

  Yesterday, I wrote about reasons why men lie. But there is a major difference between how men and women lie. Men lie to women. Women lie to themselves. Men lie for loads of reasons: not wanting to deal with your drama over a no biggie our backs are to the wall and all known escape routes…

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Published by admin on March 4, 2016

So… You Think You’re Ready for a Poly/Open Relationship? 10 Questions to Find Out!

Are you ready for a Poly/Open relationship? Many of you might be thinking, Hey, it could be fun to expand my relationship! It definitely could be. But more likely than not, you’re not ready. Not even close to ready. Not the same ballpark as ready. I mean, why add more people to the mix when…

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Published by admin on December 29, 2015

The New Sexy: Women Over 40

I’m 41. Until recently, when a woman over 40 checked out my dating profile, the first thought that popped up in my head was “too old”–and then I quickly moved on. I would literally think, “Why is she checking me out? We’re not even in the same generation.” No lie. I shared this revelation with my friend, Heather, who’s in…

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