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Published by admin on August 12, 2017

My Life Dilemma: To Quest or Not to Quest

That is the question. Isn’t it? I’m not trying to wax philosophical like Shakespeare (ok, maybe I am) but seriously: is this not the GRAND QUESTION OF THEM ALL??! To Quest or Not to Quest This is life in a nutshell. My life, your life, all of our lives: to play it safe,…

Published by admin on August 7, 2017

The Wisdom of Un-plan

We place such a high value of knowing what we’re doing in this culture; of having a plan. I have no plan. Sure, I have desires, goals and such– but not a plan. And that’s not easy–especially in a culture that expects us to know what we’re doing. But I’ve had plans. I’ve…

Published by admin on June 29, 2017

Why Relationship Advice is Crap

I once consulted the I Ching for a reading with a friend of mine. We both “asked” the online app the same question, and to my astonishment, we got completely different answers. The question: is having casual sex good for me? But it kinda made sense. His journey was moving into a more soulful…

Published by admin on June 9, 2017

I don’t want to be a hamster

I was just outside, having a smoke, thinking. I was listening to the sounds– passing cars, birds chirping, a washing machine washing. But I couldn’t separate the sounds from my “knowledge” of those sounds. I couldn’t experience those sounds as merely sounds; they are always sounds that mean something. The whooshing…

Published by admin on May 10, 2017

What if…

That which you’re seeking, is seeking you. But because you’re always seeking it, you’re never “home,” and it can’t find you. www.alexobed.com

Published by admin on March 2, 2017

Perhaps You’re Not as Far as You Think

I’ve been struggling lately. It’s my age-old nemesis of not having enough money. It’s a sad, boring story that has become my life: on auto-repeat. Insert yawn here. (And it was just made worse hearing a good friend tell me how his teenage son is making $2,000/mo., whilst in high school, with an online yard-cleaning…

Published by admin on June 21, 2016

When Writing Fails Me

I think it’s a sign that I’m not living. Damn. Time to re-create myself. Again. Get busy living or get busy dying www.alexobed.com

My Life Dilemma: To Quest or Not to Quest