Published by admin on September 28, 2017

Making Magic at the Bank (of course this story involves a woman)

  Don’t worry… I didn’t rob it. But I did break an old pattern today. Usually, when I cross paths with a beautiful woman, who happens to be a complete stranger, I don’t know what to say. On a good day, I’ll smile and say, “hey,” and then quickly go back to staring at my…

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Published by admin on June 2, 2017

Maybe

  I told you it was about freedom, but that’s only half the story.   Maybe it’s not that you’ll smother me or take my freedom; but that in submitting to your love,  I’ll be annihilated.   Maybe the me you’ll slay isn’t the real me,  but the imposter posing as me. Maybe.   www.alexobed.com…

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Published by admin on November 29, 2016

My Next “Relationship”

  Someone recently asked me, “Alex, you just got OUT of a relationship–why are you already thinking about your next one?” Because at THIS moment, I am VERY CLEAR on what I DO NOT WANT in a relationship. When we leave a relationship, there are things that weren’t working–obviously. Emotionally and time-wise, we are closest to that “knowing”…

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Published by admin on March 7, 2016

Tortured by Nothing

I can’t help it. I ponder life almost incessantly. On my late night walk tonight, I reflected on how our civilization has conquered almost everything. Everything but immortality and meaning. When I stood outside my apartment, in 45 degrees of winter, with fire in my hand, a super-warm jacket and the knowledge that I can…

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Published by admin on March 3, 2016

free. at. last.

  I didn’t know that I wasn’t free. Not until tonight. It’s 11 months to the day since my breakup with M, my longest, most significant romantic relationship of my life. In a moment of not-all-togetherness, I texted her. I am heartbroken, I told her. And, no, this is not me asking for you back. I…

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Published by admin on January 4, 2016

Why Broke Men Shouldn’t Date

  This post is for the guys–the broke guys. (You know who you are.) I confess.  I’ve been guilty, myself. As a “creative” type who grew up believing that society should support ME to support IT, I was never very motivated by money. Give me time. Give me freedom. Those were my mantras. Well, that was…

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Published by admin on November 20, 2015

A Field Guide to Leaving the Person You Love

How the fuck do you leave the person you love? I realize that I’m assuming that you may actually want to leave the person that you love. But if you’re in a relationship and struggling that freaking much (you know who you are), then you absolutely should leave. Let’s start by getting all the reasons that you shouldn’t leave out on the…

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