Down-n-Dirty Blog on Relationships

Published by admin on May 6, 2018

The Girl w/ Cat Breath

It was our second date–but more of a friend date. I didn’t feel a ton of chemistry on our first date, but it was fun, and she was interesting and out-of-the-box, and totally irreverent, so we kept in touch with the intention of doing artsy/creative things together. It took a few weeks, but…

Published by admin on April 16, 2018

Ready Player One, Zombie Ghosting & Exploratory Blowjobs

Where to begin. Last night, I had a mystical experience. After a date. After watching the film, Ready Player One, with my date. It was really more of a friend date, but we’ll get back to that later. We’d been talking for a few weeks, mostly through text, after I initially super-swiped right on her…

Published by admin on April 10, 2018

Missing Glances

Most of us are content glancing— a mother holds her young daughter’s hand, crossing the street. Our mind registers— oh, a mom walks her young daughter across the street. We glance, but we do not see— how proud the little girl is skipping in her new cherry-red shoes, with the black buckle; her…

Published by admin on March 31, 2018

Be Out of Control

I had an epiphany today about these words. You are out of control. In the common meaning: you are acting in a way that is not ok; i.e., too aggressive, too wild, too selfish, etc. But a deeper cut is that you’re not in my control– and I don’t like it. To be out…

Published by admin on March 11, 2018

When Your Fate Hangs in the Balance

I’m talking about the decision to get married. I would venture to say that it’s the most important decision of our lives. And though we might say it’s reversible, its consequences may not be. Maybe I’m being dramatic. Or am I? Marriage is the default position of our culture. It’s what little girls are…

Published by admin on February 25, 2018

The Most Difficult of Things

is not marriage or parenting or learning to sew. not programming or finals or burying your in-law. What is most difficult is living. Living without pretending, that is. And what are we pretending, you ask? We pretend that our actions and our agendas make any sense when they make…

Published by admin on February 24, 2018

BAD FAITH

A la one of my favorite Frenchmen (viva la France!) after Camus, that is– Sartre discussed the notion of “bad faith.” What is bad faith? We were born into a world that already had a bunch of givens: how to behave how to live (though, ironically… not much of a manual for how…

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