Published by admin on August 3, 2015

The Journey from Loneliness to Aloneness

It was my birthday. I was spending time with my then girlfriend. We were walking the belt-line in Atlanta on a hot April afternoon. Who knows what went wrong, but she wasn’t happy. We stopped at a Starbucks so she could use the bathroom. I waited outside on one of those cushiony chairs. She came…

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Published by admin on July 21, 2015

Radical Dishonesty

  I remember sitting by the river bank one day with a woman. Not just any woman, mind you. There was history between this woman and l.   Teenage history– with a gap the size of adulthood between our past and that moment, on that rock along the river, sitting peacefully (on the outside at least). Finally, I succumbed…

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Published by admin on July 13, 2015

Monogamissing Out

Hopefully, this title made you smile. I’m just being funny. Mostly. Let me just say this at the onset: I’m mostly talking to single people here. I am not talking to those of you reading this who are already married or in long-term committed relationships. There’s no hope for you. I’m talking to those of you…

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Published by admin on July 6, 2015

Compersion: The Joy that Keeps on Giving

Some call it the “antidote to jealousy.” It’s a word that has been coined via the poly/non-monogamous world to mean the joy you experience seeing your partner in joy because of another romantic relationship. I’d like to broaden this definition (while we’re already creating new terms, right?) to mean the joy that you experience when your…

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Published by admin on June 30, 2015

Sex: The Bastard Child of Eros

Sex is cheap. I said it. And, I’ll say it again: Sex. Is. Cheap. We see so many images of the feminine EVERYWHERE. Magazines. Commercials. Holiday parties… And it’s all cheap cheap cheap. Such a cheap imitation. Of what, you ask? Eros. I used to see women walking around in their form-fitting clothing. It led…

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Published by admin on June 29, 2015

When You Smile at the Abyss

You’re 41. Or maybe you’re 31. or 61. or… who cares. I’m 41. And even though I’ve never been in a majorly significant relationship until this last one, and even though I’ve never been ruled by relationship-ending fears: if I break up with her, will I find anyone better? if I break up with her, will…

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Published by admin on September 1, 2013

Tough Conversations You Won’t Have With Your Partner

I understand why you don’t want to talk about it. I mean, your relationship is going “fine.” It’s been the best relationship you’ve had in a long time–maybe forever. Why rock the boat? But… if you really get quiet, you can hear the echo of doubt lingering deep in the unexplored caverns of your subconscious:…

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