Self | Down-n-Dirty Blog on Relationships

Published by admin on April 27, 2016

Shaken or Stirred: How Do You Like Your LOVE Served?

Coffee. Some people like it black. Others with loads of sugar. Then, there are the Starbucks people. Grande, Iced, Sugar-Free, Vanilla Latte With Soy Milk, please. My point: people have very specific ways they like their coffee. And once they find the way they like it, they usually stick with it. You rarely hear a Starbucks…

Published by admin on March 16, 2016

Why We See Women as Weak

My epiphany struck in Publix. I was shopping with a friend and just slightly ahead of him. I found myself keeping tabs on whether he was coming with me or not. I started to feel a tinge of insecurity. Was I going to assert my independence, or was I going to have to follow…

Published by admin on March 11, 2016

Who is an Artist?

I was once told, and rather smugly, by a woman in California, Alex, you’re not an Artist. It made my blood boil, but was there truth to what she was saying? After all, I wasn’t producing much art at the time. I said back, rather defensively, I see life through the eyes of an artist. …

Published by admin on March 7, 2016

Tortured by Nothing

I can’t help it. I ponder life almost incessantly. On my late night walk tonight, I reflected on how our civilization has conquered almost everything. Everything but immortality and meaning. When I stood outside my apartment, in 45 degrees of winter, with fire in my hand, a super-warm jacket and the knowledge that I can…

Published by admin on March 5, 2016

My Most Courageous Act

The most courageous thing I’ve ever done wasn’t kayaking The Narrows in Zion National Park. It wasn’t living in Israel during the second antifada. It wasn’t even doing naked stand-up in front of a hundred strangers at Burning Man (even though I had forgotten to manscape). No. The most courageous thing I’ve ever done was to leave the…

Published by admin on March 4, 2016

Creative People: Why Are You So LAZY?!

I woke up at 1:30pm today with this thought: Am I lazy or…? A lot of us judge ourselves by how productive we are in our day-to-day lives. This is a big problem for creative types. (And by creative types, I mean YOU. Not the you you are now, but the latent creative you who is lying-in-waiting. Why? Because…

Published by admin on March 4, 2016

So… You Think You’re Ready for a Poly/Open Relationship? 10 Questions to Find Out!

Are you ready for a Poly/Open relationship? Many of you might be thinking, Hey, it could be fun to expand my relationship! It definitely could be. But more likely than not, you’re not ready. Not even close to ready. Not the same ballpark as ready. I mean, why add more people to the mix when…

Shaken or Stirred: How Do You Like Your LOVE Served?